Author: skipper

I have never been really good at reading devotional books. I guess I find that the books are encouraging me to do something, or to feel a certain way, or to believe a certain thing about God. It only takes a few pages for me to agree that I should be doing, feeling, or believing whatever it is they’re telling me, and I just want to get on with it.

However, with the huge volume of devotional books out there, I guess I am in the minority. I know folks who say that they have trouble reading the Bible directly, but enjoy a devotional book instead. To me, this is like reading a movie review: I could read any number of reviews about a particular film, but I’ll never experience it for myself unless I actually attend the movie. For those of us who enjoy what a friend calls “Christian consumables,” maybe we can work on stoping with the reviews, and instead enjoy the show.

My two teenage daughters are going on a mission trip with the church youth group this summer. They just got back from doing some shopping, and on the list was a one-piece bathing suit for each. Two-piece suits are a big no-no on this trip.

Now, my girls have the most modest two-piece suits you can imagine. The top is like a tank top, and overlaps the bottom, which is actually a short skirt. The top has wide straps, a high neck, and is not in any way revealing. This is the type of suit my (and possibly your) mother wore to the pool when we were kids. All they need is the bathing cap with the plastic flowers on it to make the outfit complete.

My wife tells me that most girls going on the trip, as far as she has heard, are shopping for a one-piece suit. Any bets on whether the two-piecers they currently have are as modest as I’ve just described? Doubtful. She talked to one mom who said she just finished buying “all the clothes” her daughter needed for the trip. The mom explained that the requirements for the trip were more modest than what her daughter had in the closet.

Now, follow me on this. I’m about to quote from the guidelines for this mission trip: “Shorts are fine but should come at least to mid-thigh-six inch inseam (Please follow this). Girls, please leave your sport bra/tank-top combos at home…Girls should wear skirts or dresses with tops, not sundress type tops. Bring modest, one-piece bathing suits for pool activities…No revealing or tight-fitting clothing.”

What I hear this mom saying is that her daughter does not have one week’s worth of the above-described clothing available. Is she really saying that when her 14-year-old looks in the closet, all she sees are short shorts, sport bras, tank tops, and sundresses — all revealing and/or tight-fitting?

I realize that for some people, the prude-meter must be spiking right about now. I don’t deny it. I have always been fashion-challenged, and I don’t go much farther than jeans and a t-shirt myself (although see this article; maybe I’m not so out of it after all). What I’m wondering, though, is whether we have a double standard for ourselves. When we’re on a mission trip, our children must reflect Jesus and all propriety. However, when they’re going to the mall with their friends, break out the halter tops!

I’m reminded of my college years, when I was a varsity yell leader. The girls on the squad were fond of putting their hair into a ponytail on gameday, with a bow at the top. It gave them a sort of “little girl” appearance. These were the same girls who were drinking their brains out the night before. Their primary goal seemed to be to get so uproariously drunk so as not to remember what they had done. Then the next day, it’s Sweet Polly Purebread, the innocent and wholesome cheerleader.

Well, I’m a “sponsor” on this trip (I still am trying to figure out what a “sponsor” is and does; I guess I’ll find out). So, am I going to be spending ten days with girls who truly desire to be modest, or will they bury their new clothes in the bottom drawer once they get home, and only pull them out for next year’s mission trip?